Growing Up Autistic: Mandy’s Story, Emotional Depth, Digital Safety & Empowering Families
Growing Up Autistic: Insights from Advocate Mandy Pinckley — What Parents Need to Know
Based on Episode 1 of the Autism Family Resource Podcast
Parents of neurodivergent children often tell us the same thing: “I just want to understand my child better.”
In this episode of the Autism Family Resource Podcast, autism advocate Mandy Pinckley shares her powerful story of growing up autistic, navigating deep emotions, experiencing bullying, and ultimately transforming pain into purpose. Her perspective offers valuable insight for caregivers looking to support their child with more understanding, connection, and compassion.
The Importance of Being Seen: Mandy’s Diagnosis Story
Mandy wasn’t diagnosed with autism until adolescence—a common experience for autistic girls. She described how a simple moment of stimming (rubbing her hands together when excited) caught the attention of a family friend who encouraged her to be evaluated.
Receiving a diagnosis helped her finally understand the way she thinks, feels, and experiences relationships. One of the most meaningful insights from her evaluation was learning that she struggled to differentiate between acquaintances and friends—an experience many autistic teens share.
For parents, early understanding and validation can be transformative. Even if a child is older, it’s never too late to help them make sense of themselves.
Growing Up Different: Bullying, Isolation, and Deep Emotions
Mandy shared painful experiences many neurodivergent kids face:
Feeling “left out” or disconnected from peers
Being bullied for being different
Experiencing emotions more intensely than neurotypical children
Struggling socially even when appearing “high functioning”
She explains that emotions can feel bigger and more overwhelming for autistic youth. Instead of viewing these reactions as “overreactions,” parents can ask:
“What is my child’s body trying to communicate right now?”
Understanding the root of the emotion—not just the behavior—creates safety and connection.
Digital Safety: What Every Parent Must Know
One of the most impactful parts of Mandy’s story is her experience seeking online validation when she felt isolated in real life. She shares how autistic teens are often more vulnerable in digital spaces and can be targeted more easily due to:
Difficulty reading intentions
Desire for connection
Literal thinking
Trusting or honest communication styles
Mandy emphasizes the importance of open, judgment-free dialogue. Kids need to feel safe coming to their parent and saying:
“This feels weird.”
“Someone messaged me, and I don’t know what to do.”
“I think something’s wrong.”
Instead of reacting with shame or punishment, guiding them through how to respond—and how to exit unsafe conversations—can prevent harm before it happens.
Supporting Identity, Autonomy, and Self-Expression
When talking about identity, Mandy encourages parents to:
Learn current terminology (neurodivergent, autistic, etc.)
Allow their child to define their own identity
Ask about their child’s dreams and goals
Meet them where they are—not where you expect them to be
She reminds us that every autistic person is different, and the best support is individualized, respectful, and empowering.
Helping Your Child Find Community
A major turning point in Mandy’s life was discovering community support through CARD (Center for Autism and Related Disabilities). Having access to mentors, resources, and supportive peers helped her feel less alone.
Parents can foster this same connection by helping their child:
Join neurodivergent support groups
Connect with peers who share similar experiences
Participate in safe online or in-person communities
Build confidence through shared understanding
No child should feel like they are navigating this world alone.
Final Takeaway for Parents
You don’t have to have all the answers. You just need to be a safe place.
Open communication, emotional validation, and supportive guidance can make all the difference for a neurodivergent child or teen—especially when the world feels overwhelming or confusing.
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