54 | Race, Autism & Advocacy in Parenting | Jonathan Chism
Parenting a neurodivergent child comes with layers of learning, growth, and sometimes unlearning. In this conversation, Brian sits down with Jonathan Chism to explore how race, culture, and disability intersect in the parenting journey.
Jonathan shares his experience as a Black father raising an autistic son, offering honest insight into how traditional parenting expectations can clash with what neurodivergent children actually need. This episode is not just about challenges. It is about perspective shifts, connection, and learning to see your child more clearly.
Whether you're navigating public judgment, trying to better understand your child’s needs, or simply looking for reassurance, this conversation offers grounded, real-life insight for families.
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Memorable Quote
“Your child is not a problem to fix. They are a person to know, connect with, and celebrate.”
In This Episode We Discuss
• How race and disability intersect in everyday parenting• Why delayed responses are not defiance• The importance of routines for safety and regulation• Letting go of fear of judgment in public spaces• How joining your child’s interests builds connection• Shifting from control to understanding in parenting
Key Themes From the Conversation
One of the most powerful takeaways from this conversation is the shift from expectation to understanding. Many parents grow up with clear ideas about how children “should” behave. But when raising a neurodivergent child, those expectations often need to evolve.
Jonathan shares how learning to pause, give processing time, and respect routines transformed his relationship with his son. What once may have been interpreted as defiance became something entirely different. A need for predictability, time, and support.
Another key theme is advocacy. Whether interacting with the public or navigating systems that may not fully understand disability, parents are often placed in a position where they must both support and explain. Over time, Jonathan describes how he became less focused on others’ opinions and more grounded in supporting his child authentically.
Perhaps the most meaningful theme is connection. By joining his son in stimming, routines, and daily interactions, Jonathan emphasizes that true growth comes from relationship, not correction.
Common Questions Parents Ask
Why does my child take longer to respond when I ask them to do something?Many neurodivergent children need additional time to process language and transitions. A delayed response is not defiance. Giving space and patience can make a big difference.
How can I handle judgment from others in public?It can be difficult, but focusing on your child’s needs rather than others’ reactions helps shift your mindset. Over time, confidence grows when you prioritize connection over perception.
Should I stop my child’s stimming in public?Stimming is often a form of regulation. Supporting it rather than suppressing it can help your child feel safe and understood.
Why This Conversation Matters for Families
For many parents, the hardest part is not just understanding their child. It is navigating a world that does not always understand them.
This conversation reminds us that parenting is not about fitting children into expectations. It is about expanding our understanding of who they are. When we lead with curiosity instead of control, connection naturally follows.
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About the Guest
Jonathan Chisholm is a father, educator, and founder of the Autism Dads Social Club. His work centers around supporting fathers, highlighting underrepresented perspectives, and advocating for greater understanding at the intersection of race and disability.
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